The Story of Identical Twins: One a Nazi, the other, a Member of the Israeli Navy

As
twins, Jack and Oskar shared the same
DNA, the same nature, and yet, they emerged radically different people. Born in
Trinidad in 1933, they were six months old when their parents divorced.  Oskar went to Germany with his Catholic
mother, while Jack stayed with his Romanian Jewish father.  Oskar grew up as the Nazis rose to power, greeted
the school principal with “Heil Hitler,” and later joined the Hitler Youth
movement.

Jack, meanwhile, always considered himself Jewish (though halachikly he wasn’t), but didn’t understand the significance of that identity until he was 15 years old and was sent to Venezuela to live with his aunt.  A survivor of Dachau, she was the only person from his father’s side to make it out alive.

After
the war, Jack’s aunt encouraged him to move to Israel and so at 16, he made
Aliyah and joined the Israeli Navy, ultimately becoming an officer.  In 1954, Jack went to Germany to meet his
identical twin.  They were 21 when they
met for the first time as adults. 

Psychologist
Nancy Segal tells the story of that encounter in her book “Indivisible by Two:
Lives of Extraordinary Twins.”  Jack and
Oskar examined one another as if they were looking at an alien, even though the
other’s appearance should have been entirely familiar to them. Their cultural
differences were as immediately apparent as their physical similarities.
Casting a wary eye at Jack’s Israeli luggage tags, Oskar removed them and told
his long-lost brother to tell others he was coming from America, not from
Israel.

Suffice
it to say that first reunion did not go well. Two brothers – one raised a proud
Jew who served in the Israeli Navy and the other raised a German Catholic who
had risen in the Nazi Youth movement and been taught to hate Jews.  Because of the language barrier they couldn’t
communicate much.  At the end of the
visit, they shook hands like strangers and Jack set off to San Diego where he
lived the remainder of his life.

In 1979, Jack read about a study being
done on twins and the great debate between nature and nurture.  He asked if he and his brother could
participate and thought after 25 years it might provide another opportunity for
them to see one another and develop a relationship. 

They met at the Minneapolis airport and to
their amazement discovered they were wearing the exact same thing – a white
sports jacket, similar shirt and wire- rimmed glasses. During the study, they
learned that they had so much in common. 
Both were stubborn and arrogant, both fiercely competitive.  Both read books from back to front, both
sneezed incredibly loudly, they walked in a similar fashion, and they both wore
rubber bands around their wrists.

And
yet, with all that nature gave them in common, nurture had made them
different.  They could never agree on issues
about Israel and her enemies or who was responsible for World War II. Oskar’s
repeated reference to German soldiers as ‘we’ infuriated Jack.  In a BBC documentary about the twins, Jack
describes that they tried to like each other and enjoy each other’s company but
there was always something in the background that they could not tolerate about
one another.  Jack died a few years ago at
82 years old.  Oskar passed away in
1997. 

As twins, Esav and Yaakov shared the same
DNA, the same nature, and yet, they emerged radically different people.  One became a patriarch of our people and the
other a great villain of Jewish History, the progenitor of Edom, the exile in
which we remain until this very day.

Rashi and the Rashbam both explain that
the name Esav comes from עשוי which
means complete, or finished product.  The
simple way to understand this is as a superficial description of Esav’s
appearance.  He was physically mature,
covered in hair and appeared complete, fully grown as an adult. 

However, perhaps Esav’s name and its
implication about his being complete is not just about his physique but much
more importantly about his spirit and approach to life.  In
his Menachem Tziyon, Rav Menachem Bentzion Zaks points out that
the Torah describes that this image of Esav is consistent with the Torah’s
description of him as a “man who knows hunting, a man of the field.”  Esav remains a primitive, boorish man who
spent his days among the animals, doing what animals do – hunting in the field.  Esav sees himself from the start as a
finished product.  What you see is what
you get.  He had no interest or ambition
to grow, change, or improve.  He was עשוי, complete from the start.

Rav Zaks suggests
that Yaakov’s name reflects the exact opposite quality, the insatiable appetite
for growth and improvement.  The root of Yaakov’s
name is “akeiv,” or “heel.”  When we walk, the
heel is the first part of the foot that touches the ground, says Rav Zaks. It
represents the beginning, the first step, with much to follow. Akeiv means the
beginning of a process with much greater things to come as in the expression, “ikvesa de-Meshicha, heel of
the Messianic Era.”  

Esav and Yaakov
are twins who enter the world with the same DNA, the same “nature,” but who
bring contrasting attitudes towards their “nurture.”  Esav is satisfied with who he is from the
start while Yaakov feels entering the world is just the first of many steps and
journeys to come. 

Indeed, while Esav is spiritually stagnant, remains immature and undeveloped, Yaakov spends his life struggling, wrestling and thereby growing.  In our Parsha, he overcomes his shy nature to assert himself, first by obtaining the birthright and then collecting on it by going entirely against his nature and tricking his father into giving him a beracha.  Later, before his reunion with Esav, we will read of his encounter with the angel with whom he wrestles the entire evening and triumphs.  The shy, passive yeshiva bochur who is characterized as sitting learning diligently in the tent, emerges the strong, dynamic, assertive patriarch and leader who is among the greatest role models of our people.

Esav chooses to
remain עשוי but Yaakov puts one foot in front of the other, walks, jogs and
ultimately runs to his destiny as Yisrael. 
No matter what our nature, we are not finished products.  We can nurture ourselves to grow, improve,
and change in all areas of our lives.  We
are Bnai Yisrael, we are the children of Yaakov. 

Jack and Oskar
did not leave legacies based on the “natures” they shared in common like
sneezing loudly or by the way they walked. 
Because of how they were nurtured, Jack left a legacy of having been an
officer in the Israeli Navy while Oskar left of a legacy of having been an
enthusiastic member of the Nazi youth. 

We all have
natures that predispose us, but through the way we nurture our lives, ultimately,
we can choose who we are and the legacy we leave.